Redefining Failure, Episode 88, season 4

What do you do when your life is OK, but you’d really love to have some piece of it be “WOW”? Like climbing a mountain or recording a song or contributing to world peace. But you figure there’s no way you could do any of that, you’d fail at such lofty dreams, so you go back to your OK life, which is, well, OK. How depressing! In this podcast, you’ll be introduced to a simple shift of perspective that can transform your fear of failure into an unexpected path to those lofty dreams of yours. Indeed!

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Ready, Aim, Fire!, Episode 87, Season 4

You’re ready to stand up for yourself, hurrah! But you can’t figure out quite how to do so effectively: you’re either too shy or too bold in your approach. It’s not working. No worries! In this podcast, you’ll explore an easy three-step process that can lead to you being heard in a constructive, problem-solving way, which will facilitate your getting what you want. Yes!

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Destress With a Green Break

 

Spring! Such a glorious time of year. Trees sprouting white and pink blossoms, tender new green leaves on bushes and plants, more sunlight, less gray. How delightful! If only one had time to get out there and enjoy it more. You know, as in away from your hunched-over-the-computer mode, using your legs to walk briskly, your nose to breathe clean air.

Sigh. Not likely. And yet, just a little dose of nature has surprising benefits. We’ve known for quite a while that nature rejuvenates, but recent research has taken our understanding much further. Not only does time spent in nature reduce stress and anxiety, but it also benefits cognitive functioning. Namely, the workings of our minds, especially in terms of gaining knowledge and understanding,  perception, memory, ability to reason, judgment, imagination and problem-solving. All that from spending just a little time around trees and plants.

Well, how nice you think—especially if you actually have spare time and ready access to a park or forest or woods or whatever.

But here’s the thing. The research shows that even when the subjects simply looked at an image of greenery on a roof for 40 seconds (yes, you read that correctly, 40 seconds) they did better on a test than when they looked for the same time at a concrete roof.

Looking at an image of greenery on a roof might not be your idea of a nature break, but what about that indoor house plant on your desk? Or in your living room? What if you spent a few moments really looking at that plant, appreciating the unfurling of its new leaves, the greenness of its green, how very vibrant it is, just living its plant life? Or maybe step outside for a minute to enjoy the spring air and colors? Could this attention to something of nature enhance your mood and thinking?

Science says yes. It’s worth giving it a go. I’ve found it to be, at the very least, an easy stress reducer with zero downside. As an added benefit, the little time you take to green yourself into less stress means that you’ll be more invigorated for your next task.

Hmm. Maybe getting back to that computer won’t be so painful after all.

The Power Of Words, Episode 86, Season 4

The words you hear from loved ones, friends, bosses and co-workers are powerful, you rely on them. But here’s the thing: are they trustworthy? How do you know if their words are to be believed or not? In this podcast, you can discover how to sort out the words you can trust, and those you’d best ignore – without becoming paranoid in the process!

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Fairy Tales Do Come True, Episode 85, Season 4

How do you go from knowing what you don’t want in your life to knowing what you do want? You’ve been so conditioned by other people’s definitions of what you should want, you’re stuck in the land of ‘nowhere.’ But what if there were an easy way to get yourself going where you want? In this podcast, find out how to get out of ‘nowhere,’ to the wonderful land of ‘somewhere’ and live the life of your desires!

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UNTWIST YOUR KNICKERS!

 

“Don’t get your knickers in a twist” is one of my favorite sayings. To myself, sigh. Because frankly, I find myself too often getting my proverbial “knickers” all twisted up over something that’s just not that big a deal. My passionate hobby is dance. Ballroom, to be specific. The other day, I dropped down too quickly into a dance curtsey, whereupon my right knee went “Whoa! Don’t like this!!” As in “Ouch, owie, don’t do it again.” So of course, I didn’t.

But then, here comes the knicker-twisting: “That’s it, I won’t be able to perform this dance ever, I’m a dance failure, my knee is ruined,” and on and on. Completely ignoring the fact that if you’re a dancer, I don’t care how young/old you are, pain is part of the journey (oh joy). Completely ignoring that my body is amazingly resilient, that I have resources and help with which to heal, and that a little rest-ice-compression therapy goes a long way. 

Eventually, I calmed down, untwisted my by now well-knotted-up mental “knickers” and put my mind and body in recovery mode. A couple of days later, my knee was doing just fine.

Yours may not be a dance journey, or a particularly physically focused one, but we all have those moments where we make more of something not-that-catastrophic and/or easily remedied. So yes, Sam/Samantha got that promotion at work that you wanted. Yes, it’s disappointing. Yes, you’re upset. No, it’s not the end of the world. You can have a go at another promotion. The more quickly you untwist your “Why them?! Why not me?” knickers, the more quickly you can get yourself on a path to that promotion.

Yes, you are sneezing, coughing and you feel yucky all over. You’re miserable. What if it’s COVID? What if you can’t go to work for 2 weeks? What if it’s worse? Who knows what’s going around these days? There go your knickers, twisty-twisty. Settle yourself down! Get yourself tested, go to urgent care if that feels like a good idea, call your physician, but for heaven’s sake, let go of your mental torment immediately. Mental anguish will only exacerbate whatever is going on with you. Mental calm is what allows the natural innate healing process of your body to take hold. Mental calm is how you can make rational decisions like calling your physician, for example.

No matter what the issue is, your distress and upset only make it worse. Untwist your knickers! You’ll feel better and do better every time.

 

Panic vs. Problem-Solving, Episode 84, Season 4

Do you ever feel like you’re not in charge of your emotions, that panic is swirling within you, ready to engulf you in a tsunami of dreadful feelings? In this podcast, find out how to differentiate between facts and feelings, such that you can take charge of your emotions and take back your life the way you want it to be!

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