Why is it that when you’ve just offered a perfectly decent opinion that just happens to disagree with your friend or partner’s opinion, the conversation goes south? Do you have to permanently agree with them to have a decent relationship? Good question!
In this podcast, walk away with a simple but powerful shift in how you show up in conversations — one that lets you hold your own perspective while honoring theirs, turning disagreement into dialogue and conflict into connection.
Is your job making you physically sick? Dreaded boss. Soul-crushing workday. Coworkers who drive you up the wall. If you're stressed 24/7 and running on empty — this one's for you. In Episode 141, we dig into the mind-body connection and show you how to stop being a victim of your circumstances and start using your own mind to fight back.
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The very first time I was invited to give a speech in my capacity as a trial consultant, to a large and very impressive (gulp!) group of lawyers, I was so terrified, die-hard introvert that I am, that I couldn't lift my eyes off the totally scripted pages of my speech. As I waited for my turn to speak, what kept going through my mind was a saying I learned as a toddler: "I think I can, I think I can, I think I can," which, oddly enough, soothed me such that even though my eyes never connected with my audience, I made it through the ordeal. And like the little engine that could, I ended my day with "I can!"
For
those of you who didn't have the benefit of the early children's classic, "The
Little Engine That Could," it is where that saying
comes from. I can't count how many times, to this day, the mantra of "I
think I can" has pulled me through challenges both feared and hoped for.
And it can do the same for you.
Like
that promotion you want but can't summon the courage to ask for. Or that
special someone you want to connect with, but are afraid to approach. Or that
new hobby you want to try, but doubt you'll be any good at. As the marvelously
successful Henry Ford once said: "If you think you can, you can. And if
you think you can't, you're right."
What
positively damning words! We are truly our own worst enemies. Most of the time,
that thing, whatever it is, that we don't think we can do or be or have, could
be ours, in some fashion, some way, if we but go for it. Yet we stop ourselves from
thinking that we can't be, do, or have whatever it is--so we never try.
How
very sad.
Life
is for the living of it! "I think I can" goes a long way toward
supporting us in whatever might thrill us. Try it. You might surprise yourself.
I know I did!
Why can’t you get heard? Why, no matter how loudly, angrily or with tears you speak your distress, your partner stands there like a stone? In this podcast, you’ll find out how to use your body language to help ease the way into more fruitful discussions without all that drama.
There’s nothing as powerful as a switch in focus. In this podcast, you’ll learn from a surprising source how to help you turn an unanticipated negative situation to your advantage.
I recently tried a new hair product that promised to “tame those pesky fly-aways,” and since it was reasonably priced, I thought it was worth a try. It didn’t tame much of anything, but gosh, it smelled delightful. I said to my BFF, “Smell my hair. Isn’t that great?” She sniffed and said, “It’s OK, I guess. So where do you want to go for lunch?
Oh. And then I remembered: scent isn’t the same for everyone. What smells wonderful to one person can smell just sort of all right to another, and vice versa. What smells awful to one may just be “not so bad” to another.
The hair product makes me smile every time I catch a whiff of it. That, frankly, is what is important about scent. Our emotional response to it is the basis of aromatherapy. Scents are known to directly access the brain, which in turn releases various hormones that can help support our well-being and alleviate stress. Our reaction to scent is ingrained, automatic, yet often specific to each individual. Sure, some smells are repugnant to all of us, but the degree to which we are offended or bothered by them is different for different people.
We can use our individual reaction to scent deliberately, to evoke a desired emotional response. The easiest way to find out what might work for you is to go to an aromatherapy store (no, you can’t do this on Amazon), take a deep breath as you sniff a particular scent, and see if it brings a smile to your face. If so, great, you’ve found a scent that awakens pleasing sensations for you. If not, simply move on to a different aroma. The deep breath matters, as the scent needs to get carried into your brain, so to speak, and breath facilitates that.
Then what? What do you do with that little bottle of lavender, let’s say, tucked in your pocket?
For example, you’re having a rough day at work. Your boss is being a jerk, your colleagues are worse, and you feel trapped in a job you dislike more each day. Will taking a whiff of lavender fix your work issues? Make your boss or colleagues treat you better? Your work easier? Nope. However, taking a few deep breaths of a scent that pleases you can relax your nervous system, calm your mind, and soothe you just enough for you to consider an alternative solution to whatever is bothering you. If you allow it to. That is the bottom line. You have to allow a scent to work for you, otherwise, well, it’s useless.
Sometimes, just a moment of scent-based soothing truly is
enough. Try it! There’s much to gain, and nothing to lose.
Are you tired of getting absolutely nowhere at work? Why, despite your best efforts, do you never seem to be the one to land the raise/bonus/promotion and achieve the success you know you deserve? Instead, it seems you land belly up in despair and depression a good deal of the time. In this podcast, you’ll explore how to get yourself out of repetitive “ain’t it awful” – and get yourself in the right mindset for success.
As I stood in line waiting for a table last week, a couple of people were leaving the restaurant. One of them was complaining about the fo...
