Yes, it is totally annoying when your new love does something that reminds you horrifically of your ex. The one you never want to think about ever ever again. But you don’t want to leave your new love, so what to do? In this podcast, you’ll be introduced to an easy technique that will let your new love flourish in the way you so want and deserve!
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You may think that mood and attitude are one and the same. Not so. Mood is condition-based, but attitude is chosen. This means that you can lift yourself out of a nasty mood, once you know how to do it. In this podcast, you’ll explore some ways to deal with your mood so you can lift out of grumpiness or frustration into an attitude that assuredly will lead to greater happiness quickly!
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The mind-body connection is real. It’s not just a cute phrase, the brain actually releases certain hormones and other chemicals in direct response to our thoughts: endorphins, for example, when we’re happy, cortisol when we’re stressed. These hormones and chemicals impact how we function, how we thrive – or don’t. This is why what we tell ourselves about ourselves is so very important.
This, in turn, is why I was so impressed by what I read recently about Seun Adebiyi, who was diagnosed with lymphoma and leukemia while he was training for the 2008 Beijing Olympic Games. Instead of saying “I have cancer” a potentially depressing and frightening thought, he said, “Doctors and nurses looked at me like I was crazy, but I never accepted their perspective that I was a ‘cancer patient.’ In my mind, I was an Olympic hopeful who just happened to be overcoming cancer.” He did and went on to carry the Olympic torch for Nigeria in the 2018 Winter Olympic Games, cancer-free.
Pay attention to how you talk to yourself! The words you speak have impact. Saying to yourself when you make a mistake, things like “I’m so stupid,” or “I always mess up” are damaging to the whole of you – mind, body, spirit. Not that we need to whitewash everything, “Oh, I’m so perfect,” but rather choose the words you speak to reflect reality, not to slap labels on your entire being.
“I made a mistake, ok. What can I learn from this?” is a positive and hopeful message to yourself. “I’m such an idiot,” is not. “My partner left me, I’m unloveable” labels you with a negative and damaging self-assessment. “My partner left me. I am hurting and need to heal,” simply reflects reality. Not a beat-yourself-over-the-head condemnation.
Words are powerful. Choose
yours wisely to the great benefit of a wonderful YOU!
How you think about something makes all the difference as to how you deal with it. When you realize that crisis is actually made up of both, danger and opportunity, as summarized by the Chinese character “wei chi,” you can handle the crises that inevitably crop up in every life more effectively. That is exactly what you can discover in this podcast. You’ll not only think about a crisis differently but discover a way so it doesn’t just beat you down.
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What if there was a way to achieve more success at work? Whether your work is as an employee or as your own boss? Without sacrificing your every waking moment to “the job”? In this podcast, find out how to supercharge your work by looking at what is your value to your work now and how you can harness that value for your increased success.
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The Paris Olympics were superb. The opportunity to watch the very best of the best athletes at the top of their game was phenomenal. Yet as I was enjoying yet another spectacular gymnastic move or shot-put, I realized how much we can all learn from these amazing individuals. No, not how to be a gymnast or shot-putter necessarily, but how to be a Champion in our own lives. How to approach our lives with the qualities that make a Champion.
What are those qualities?
First a passion for whatever activity or experience you pursue. It’s that passion that lights the fire within us, that makes us willing to do the tasks and take the steps, that will lead to the fulfillment of the activity/experience. It doesn’t matter if it’s washing the dishes or climbing Mt. Whitney, if you approach the endeavor with enthusiasm, then you’ll be willing to apply yourself to the washing or climbing successfully.
Second, persistence. Being willing to do the daily do, the
seemingly boring repetitive actions that accomplishing anything worthwhile
takes. Because when fueled by passion, those same actions are no longer boring,
although they may still be repetitious. No way did any of the Olympians we
admired achieve their magic overnight or on the first (or second or hundredth)
try. What they have, which so many of us
lack, is dogged persistence.
The third
quality is what I call “failure-blindness.” It’s the Champion’s
inability to conceive of failure as such. Instead, as Billie Jean King, that
indomitable tennis Champion, put it: “We don’t call it failure, we call it
feedback.” Perceiving your less-than-stellar attempts or results as feedback
for how to do whatever better next time is a sure way to success. Thinking of
your goofs and flops, your mistakes and losses as “failures” is a sure way to well–fail.
Passion,
persistence, and failure-blindness. Worthy qualities to practice regularly
until they become second nature. A sure road to greater happiness and success,
no matter what it is your heart desires.
You might think you’re more powerful if you can simply take what you want, but in truth, that’s the road to long-term unhappiness. People resent being taken from, yet they will offer that same exact thing you want, freely, when you practice the fine art of receiving. Which is what this podcast is for: to help you discover two easy ways to receive what you want so you don’t have to pry it from unwilling hands.
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