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What gets you out of bed in the morning? Do you do it because you
“have” to, as in, it’s what one does, or is it because you can’t wait to
return to something you absolutely love to do?
How you answer this question has a surprising impact on your longevity. In recent
research conducted
over a period of 14 years, people who had a sense of purpose in their
lives experienced a 15 percent less risk of dying as compared to those
who felt relatively aimless in their lives.
What’s most exciting about this research is that it didn’t matter
when people found that purpose – that whatever-it-was that gave their life meaning.
A person who discovered a passion for painting in their 70s benefited
from additional longevity in the same way as the person who’d been
painting up a storm since their 20s.
Now that’s worth thinking about. We often attribute the
meaningfulness of our lives to our work/career, or to our family. But
what happens when you retire from the work world, your family ends up on
the other side of the country or planet, or you didn’t have
grandchildren despite your fondest hopes?
You
have a choice. You can take it upon yourself to discover a passion,
something that gives renewed vigor and meaning to your life, or you can
resign yourself to boredom and stagnation with its inevitable decline
into poor health and early demise.
How to Find Your Passion
Often, the easiest route to find your passion is to think back to
what you enjoyed doing in your youth but had to set aside for reasons of
work and family commitments.
A dear friend of mine, who had a stellar career as a trial lawyer,
formed a rock band with like-minded retirees, all in their 70s. Sure,
they play for their own enjoyment.
Any performances are generally for free at senior centers, “concerts
in the park,” and other public venues. They don’t mind. Playing their
instruments and playing together is what fuels their joy.
The seniors I’ve researched through the years have found a variety of
passions – painting, volunteering at places from museums to hospitals,
swimming, running, dancing, quilting, writing, and on and on.
Elisa Costantini,
for example, was aimless after the death of her beloved husband and
slipping into a deep depression. Knowing how much she had enjoyed
cooking throughout her life, her son Frank nudged Elisa in the direction
of collecting some of her wonderful recipes.
With his encouragement, Elisa not only gathered her recipes but wrote
a cookbook at age 78. She’d never written anything before. This project
gave her life such a renewed purpose that Elisa went on at 80 to write
and publish a second cookbook, “Italian Moms: Something Old, Something
New.”
If
there’s nothing in your younger days that appeals to you, look around
at what other people are doing, regardless of their age. Just about any
activity can be adjusted to suit your physical capabilities, be that
scuba diving, playing tennis, or mountain climbing – although, be sure
to check with your physician first.
Learning is geared to all ages. Learning a language, a craft, a skill
can be adapted to your means and resources. Once you start deliberately
exploring and noticing what other people love to do, you will find
something – or many things – that pique your interest.
Just Do It
Of course, you actually have to get up, get out, and do it. You may
need to stick with something for a while before you realize its true
joy.
Many times, starting with one activity leads you to another that you
find even more rewarding. Group classes are a great way to discover
whether you like something enough to pursue it.
Persist
Look upon uncovering your new purpose, your passion, as an adventure.
That sense of adventure alone will draw you towards finding new
meaning, and with that, a longer lease on a happy life.
Sixty and Me
